5.24.2005

Blame Shifting


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I recently read an article by Brian Orme entitled “Tagline Truths”. He writes, “One of the most impacting issues in our day is the subject of sexuality. In a culture that thrives on sensuality, the Church can't afford to stay silent about sexuality—even though it's a messy subject matter to unravel. We may even get in a little trouble for discussing it, but the consequences are even greater if we fail to enter the conversation.

When Jessica Alba (Dark Angel, Sin City, Honey) was asked if she was, or had been, a born-again Christian, her response was, "I used to be. When I was a kid." She went on in the interview to talk about the reason she shunned Christianity: "Because a lot of people gave me grief for being a woman—and made me feel ashamed for having a body because it tempted men." She ended the conversation by saying, "It was a tough time in my life." It was sad to hear—Jessica Alba released the faith of her childhood because she felt guilty about the body God gave her.

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The same type of rhetoric was used by Jessica Simpson's father, a former Baptist pastor. He said it was hard to talk to Christian music labels about signing Jessica because they thought she was too full-figured, a problem they didn't want to have to deal with in the Christian marketplace.

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Maybe we should question the way we as members of the Church view the body.”

This is something that seems to happen a lot in western Christian culture. A guy looks lustfully at a girl and shifts the blame for HIS SIN to her. “It must have been the way she dressed”. Or how about this, “I saw someone who was supposed to be a Christian, and they were having a beer, so that tempted me, and I got sloppy drunk.”

When do accountability and personal responsibility come into play? When will we stop shifting blame and accept the responsibility for our actions and thoughts?

Here's the deal people. They're boobs. Half the population has them, deal with it. Boobs have the sexual power that you give them. Men, control your mind. Take responsibility for your own actions. Stop shifting liability. Don't blame one of God's most beautiful creations for your thought life.
Get it under control.

16 comments:

ben said...

Amen.
Finally, a sermon I can sit through with rapt attention.

Good blawg brudda.

Jeff said...

nice. finally, someone who is not afraid to deal with the 4 letter word of American Christianity...

freakin responsibility!

work it dude.

Riana said...

You just gained 5 points...

Seriously. I worked with church youth (high school) for a while. More men are needed to stand up and speak the truth to men.

Maybe I'll write more about the subject on my blog.

Mad Cow said...

I won't even get started on this one, let's just say that I agree so I don't have to write an essay to explain how much I agree.

And for the record, more than half of the population has boobs. Case in point: Scott The Bod.

jimmy said...

GOOD POINT!!! I wasn't even considering the man boobs.

jimmy said...

But then I've never been "caused to stumble" while gazing lovingly at a nice firm pair of man teets

Jeremy said...

I think we need more example pictures Jimmy.

Did you see that guy on the Man Show that got full breasts implanted? Not the least bit attractive.

Interesting about Joe Simpson. I've seen a bit of the Ashlee and Jessica tv shows and Joe doing his work.

Seriously ... how do you refocus off the boobs?

ben said...

Shock Therapy.

annmarie said...

refocus??? maybe actually lookin in the persons eyes. And no, the nipples are not looking back at you. :)
Boobs are boobs, we are only obssesed because we act like they are forbidden.

Roman said...

I've read this a few weeks ago and it really bothered me. The church is very hypocritical, it seems. If a girl has too good of a body, it's bad, if she doesn't have a good body, it's bad. I'm so happy I'm not a woman.

jimmy said...

good point annmarie, Katie was talking to me as I was posting this and she said that she has definitely been made to feel guilty about having breasts, but she said it's ten times more sinful that you have nipples!! Katie said something like if she wasn't wearing an ultra padded bra and walked by the air conditioner vent, if her nipples perked up, people acted like it was a sign that she was deliberately trying to seduce men. It's interesting to me that Katie said that these types comments came from other women. These women were heaping guilt on another woman for a completely involuntary physical reaction. I dunno, I just thought that was interesting that Katie said that she was made to feel sinful for having nipples.

Jeremy said...

Some of it would be from the different media we have to endure. A lot of advertising uses womans bodies to get our attention and keep it. There is a constant focus on bodies as sensual objects so it's not suprising really that we carry that through to everyday life.

homebrewer said...

Breasts are great. Womens bodies are great in general. As a man, I find them attractive. It's tough not to admire a fine pair of breasts. Is it a sin to admire them? to find them attractive? to notice nipples? No. Thats why god made them, to attract us. Attraction is fine, temptation is fine. Sin is when you step beyond temptation into wrong actions or obsession.

Christians in general attack temptation and would love to remove it from society (especialy from our children). That doesn't make us any stronger or more in love with Christ. It wraps us in fear and eliminates freedom.

Kel said...

Oh man. This post made me laugh and cry. But there was more laughter than anything.

brilliant blogging

Natala said...

jimmy - you rock. that's all i have to say ;)

susiealbertmiller said...

until christians deal with issues of beauty and desire, there will continue to be a shunning of women and shapely bodies. it is tragic that the church has followed the world in removing soul from sexuality.